The order of the dialog meeting

One page for the leader. Print it and keep it before your eyes. The dialog meeting is a form of the teaching (the network phase), not of the church: there are no candles and no ritual frame on it. The full version — in Phases of the network strategy.

Before the meeting

• The day and hour are iron. Once chosen — they do not move. Once a week.
• One knot. Choose the theme of the meeting in advance: the answer for what is done, the wound, re-living, consent, the boundary, force, contribution. One thought, plain words. No more.
• The sign-up is personal. The link to those who wrote personally. The camera is obligatory for the leader, optional for the others.
• The workplace: silence, normal light, the phone does not ring. You are the master of the place, even if the place is a call.

The skeleton of the meeting (without rigid minutes; calibrate the durations by the live meeting)

1. The laying out. Lay out one knot of the teaching briefly. Plain words, no mediator terms. One thought — a guest must be able to retell it after the meeting in one sentence. It is lawful to say: "I don't know, I'll come back with an answer."

2. Questions in the frame of "check me." The frame is not "beat me" but "check me." To every weakness we answer directly; what the teaching does not claim — we say straight. Dispute is a lawful way of reading the construction. Rudeness is stopped at once: the boundary is public, the deed, not the person.

3. The minute of re-understanding. Exactly one minute — as in the canon. Time the minute for real. Without attributes: simply a minute and the task — look at your week: whom you touched, what you did not set right. This is the personal practice of the teaching, not part of a rite.

4. The step. One action before the next meeting: start the diary of thoughts and deeds (one evening question: "And what have I done today for tomorrow?"), read "What will happen after your death." Whoever wants — comes further; whoever does not — left with benefit.

What is not at the meeting

• Candles and the ritual frame — this is a form of the teaching, not of the church.
• The collection of money: until the community is born, donations are not accepted; the technical costs of the phase are borne personally by the founder — they are to be compensated in the future.
• Sign-up as members and "obligatory" steps.
• The rhetoric of victory and "we are growing."
• The checking of those who came: whoever came is the master of his own "why."

After the meeting

• One personal invitation to the next meeting (the template). Then — silence, until the person writes himself.
• The recording is not published without the consent of the participants.
• You noticed a recognizable face (the third meeting) — a conversation about mentoring and the route of the first month, by personal expression.

The rules of the place (named at the first meeting, repeated verbatim)

Check; lies about life are forbidden; rudeness — ban; we persuade no one.

The ending of the meeting

The closing formula — from the book of formulas, verbatim:

What have you left unhealed? Set one thing right — start here.

Related documents: Phases of the network strategy (the full frame of phase A), "What will happen after your death" (the guest's road), Answers in 60 Seconds (preparations for questions), Moderation: hard cases (if the meeting is broken), Personal letters (the template after the meeting).